(Mark & Lisa, 2008) |
My name is Mark Preston and I'm totally in love with a woman that walked out on me after 4 wonderful years together.
Yes, I was devastated!
I could have done nothing and spent the rest of my life regretting it and miserable, but I took action and found some amazing advice, and I couldn't be happier for it today!
This is my story of how I lost everything but eventually found a way to win it all back. Hopefully other guys and gals in my situation can benefit from this huge lesson learned. |
Now, let me just say upfront that I'm not one to cry and moan about things, especially relationships, but until you have someone that you're totally in love with talk about separation, or flat out leave you, you really don’t know how much this can hurt. I don't care if you're the toughest guy/girl in the world, you will hurt.
I met Lisa in 2003 at a work related convention. We looked at each other from across the room several times that evening. We'd catch each other's eye and smile then look the other way. I know, it’s kinda cheesy, but I was hooked. I eventually got up enough nerve to actually go over and introduce myself.
Before I even got to her she extended her hand and said "Hi, I'm Lisa". And man, those 3 words were just the most wonderful 3 words I had ever heard. Of course, I fired back with "I'm Mark and I thought I'd save you some stares and just come over". What a dork I was! She cleverly said "I'm staring at you right now, how does that save me anything?” I was outgunned and I knew it. LOL. I laugh now, but how she fell for me I have no freaking idea!
After spending a wonderful evening together and just about every weekend after that for the next 6 months, Lisa moved in with me (no, we weren’t married, sorry Mom/Dad, LOL). We were inseparable from the time we got home from work till the time we had to leave for work. We are both career oriented people and managed to juggle work and play quite nicely.
We were happy and times were good. There was a little arguing, like in every relationship, but we always made our way back to each other.
Now, fast forwarding several years to November 2007...
It was a Tuesday. I pulled into our driveway to see Lisa sitting on the porch. She met me about halfway to the door and said we need to talk. We walked inside the house and I immediately knew what was happening. Her stuff was gone. She and I talked a bit, but to be honest, I was stunned and wasn't comprehending much. She just wanted to end it, that's all I remember.
Was there a warning? Was there any kind of sign?
I didn't think so at the time. As I said, I thought we had a wonderful relationship, and I thought she was happy.
Honestly, when Lisa left, I was stunned, but I certainly thought I would get over it. However, as the days gone by I could tell this wasn't like any of my past relationships, none of those break-ups had ever caused me the amount of pain like this one. The truth is, Lisa was the love of my life and with each passing day I began to realize that fact more and more.
I can’t describe the loneliness, stomach turning at night wondering how she is (or even who she's with!); fear that the once-in-a-lifetime love-of-my-life is gone forever. This stuff runs through your head not only daily - but just about every damn minute of the day! I was physically ill at times. No exaggeration. It was certainly affecting my professional work life as well.
Several months went by. Still totally in love with Lisa and still totally blind as to what may have caused her to leave, I decided to look at how I treated her as the potential cause of our break up. Up till then it never really entered my mind that this problem could have been due to anything I had done. I love Lisa dearly and always treated her with the love she needed, I thought.
I remember being on the internet actually searching for “Dr. Ruth relationship advice”. I thought Dr. Ruth is who you go to for this type of stuff, right? I really had no idea. Dr. Ruth was big when I was a kid, so I thought I’d start there.
I’m sure Dr. Ruth encountered this problem before, but I wasn’t finding any words of wisdom from her from my searches that night … but I must say, I do certainly remember finding volumes of information on the average size of the male, well, you know. Some of the things people ask!
I poured hours and hours into trying to find any type of relationship information that could help me recognize just what I did to make Lisa stop loving me. I ended up finding some sites with good information, but I found a whole lot more sites with totally useless information. It was a frustrating experience.
Eventually I made my way to a relationship forum and searched the topics for book recommendations. Everyone was talking about a book called "The Magic of Making Up" by a guy named TW Jackson. I got my hands on a copy and boy did I strike gold.
It’s kind of embarrassing to say, but this book was the first book outside of a business management book that I actually read all the way through. Honestly, I felt like this book was written for me.
TW's technique to finding out if your ex still cares was exactly what I needed at that time. I really didn’t know if Lisa still cared for me or not. I met with Lisa a few times and went over the technique with her and I was absolutely elated at the results. She still cared about me! There was still a chance for us! Of course she had no idea I was using anything, and that's part of the beauty of this technique. :)
This advice stopped my life from a downward spiral to a slow uphill climb. That was my turning point.
After finding out Lisa still cared, I realized I needed to find out how to go about getting back together with her – the right way! This was something that scared the hell out of me. Ok, I knew she still cared for me, but maybe she just didn't want to be with me anymore.
A lot of questions were running through my head at that time. What should I say to Lisa? Should I just come out and say let's get back together? What if I was rejected? Maybe she would even laugh at the idea?
Surprisingly, I was more nervous at that process than the first time I walked up to introduce myself to her.
TW came to my rescue again... there's a section in TW’s book that shows you how to go about reconnecting with your ex. There’s even a step-by-step plan in the book that I used and it eventually had Lisa calling me, which was something I certainly didn't expect.
I owe a lot to that book. Could I have done it without TW’s book? Maybe, but certainly not as easy, and I certainly wouldn’t be as educated on how to keep Lisa (and myself) happy and keep our relationship alive.
It's odd, sometimes I even feel like I cheated at winning Lisa back because of all the help that book had given me. In fact, after getting back with Lisa I introduced her to my secret weapon (the book). She was actually impressed that I took the initiative to find out what went wrong in our relationship. Yes, I scored some MAJOR points with her over this, and she loved the book.
Lisa and I even re-read TW's book together and have ongoing open discussions about the topics... and we both are so much better off for it. We've even shared a few of TW's techniques with some friends and watched it do wonders to those relationships as well.
Overall, I'm very proud of the choices I made in winning Lisa back. I honestly think I avoided a life of misery and regret. Today, our love and connection continues to grow and neither of us could be happier. In fact, we're now planning on getting married!
What a dream... and just to think for one moment that I could have lost it forever if it weren't for TW's book - The Magic of Making Up.
Let me say this, if you find yourself in a similar situation, you'd be nuts not to give TW's book a read. You will simply be amazed at how jam packed the book is with so many useful and clever ways to win back your ex. I can't believe he wants as little as he does for it. In fact, when I saw the price, I thought it was a misprint.
TW even offers a 60 day Money Back Guarantee… if you’re not back with your ex within 60 days, or if you’re not happy with his book, he’ll give you a prompt and courteous refund. You can't go wrong with that... TW’s very good at bringing people back together and he genuinely wants to help.
Well, that's the story of my success. Now do yourself a favor and get (and read!) The Magic of Making Up and win back your happiness ASAP!
I'm cheering for you,
Mark Preston
P.S. TW, thanks again, buddy. Your book saved my life by giving me the love of my life back. I really owe you one.
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