Breaking up with someone you’ve been with for a decent amount of time is going to have some degree of hurt that will come along with it. There’s no getting around it. In fact, they say breaking out of a serious relationship can bring more physically pain than a broken limb. I certainly have experienced this pain in my break up with my long time girlfriend. It sucks.
They also say the only way to combat this pain is through the passing of time. I would agree with this. Time will always ease the pain, it may not ease your love for your partner, but it will become easier to function as time passes. Sometimes that’s just all you can do - count on time to kick in.
It should also be noted that not all break ups need to be final. Sometimes two people in love with one another find themselves not seeing eye-to-eye over petty things that they really don’t mean anything, yet they continue to put a strain on the relationship. In these cases it seems like the lines of communication just break down and one person becomes fed up and decides it’s over, maybe after a heated argument.
These are really unfortunate situations. Typically you’ll end up with two hard-headed individuals going through hell because of it. Both too stubburn to give the other a call and talk things through. For some reason, as time goes by, it gets harder and harder to try to make the next step to reconcile.
Not every break up can be recovered. But if you find yourself in love with someone and you’d like to find a way to win them back, then take the next step. Get some help with finding out what went wrong and how to approach getting your ex back.