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Breaking Up Hurts - Not Sure If I Want To Go Through Again

Friday, January 23rd, 2009

Breaking up with someone you’ve been with for a decent amount of time is going to have some degree of hurt that will come along with it. There’s no getting around it. In fact, they say breaking out of a serious relationship can bring more physically pain than a broken limb. I certainly have experienced this pain in my break up with my long time girlfriend. It sucks.

They also say the only way to combat this pain is through the passing of time. I would agree with this. Time will always ease the pain, it may not ease your love for your partner, but it will become easier to function as time passes. Sometimes that’s just all you can do - count on time to kick in.

It should also be noted that not all break ups need to be final. Sometimes two people in love with one another find themselves not seeing eye-to-eye over petty things that they really don’t mean anything, yet they continue to put a strain on the relationship. In these cases it seems like the lines of communication just break down and one person becomes fed up and decides it’s over, maybe after a heated argument.

These are really unfortunate situations. Typically you’ll end up with two hard-headed individuals going through hell because of it. Both too stubburn to give the other a call and talk things through. For some reason, as time goes by, it gets harder and harder to try to make the next step to reconcile.

Not every break up can be recovered. But if you find yourself in love with someone and you’d like to find a way to win them back, then take the next step. Get some help with finding out what went wrong and how to approach getting your ex back.

See how I got my ex girlfriend back.

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Is Getting Back with Your Ex The Right Thing to Do?

Friday, January 23rd, 2009

It’s certainly not easy separating with your ex. You will certainly experience varying levels of pain, but that comes with the task. Confusion is the next biggest hurdle. At what point can we be fully confident that we did the right thing?

Look, some relationships need to come to an end, and the faster the better. These are the people that seemed to fight like mortal enemies right from the get go. It certainly isn’t surprising when these folks call it quits. In fact, it much more surprising when they continue to brutalize each other and stay together. I was in one of these types of relationships in my life. There was no second-guessing myself after this break up - thank God it’s over!

Then there are relationships that always seemed to juggle from good times, to the ok times, to the not-so-good times. These relationships can last forever. I see it happen all the time. Is everyone happy forever? They can be. Breaking up in these types of relationships isn’t fun and it certainly can be devastating.

Most of my relationships throughout my life fell into this category. Breaking up certainly wasn’t fun, but I certainly got over it. Do I think I did the right thing with these break ups? Absolutely. And I’m proud to say that I remain friends with most of these girls.

But every once in a while we find ourselves in a relationship that seems so good that you think there was a higher power responsible for it. Life is good in these types of relationships. You both love the way you feel around each other and tend to day dream about each other when you’re apart. I know, many relationships start this way, but fade after you get to know them.

I’m talking about the relationships where the feelings get stronger the more you get to know the other person. These relationships can be the ingredients of true love. Very sadly, sometimes these relationships come to an end as well. And sometimes the reasons for the end aren’t so clear. I had one of these relationships in my life… and I have to say there was a time when we had broken up, and it was devastating.

Where does your relationship with your ex fit in?

You have to be truthful with yourself. If you truly had a good thing with your ex, then it may not be something you want to give up on. Happiness and a fulfilling life with someone you truly love is absolutely worth pursuing. I was in this situation myself and I took action and every day I feel like I won the lottery.

Take a look at how I won my girl back.

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How to Save My Marriage

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009

Ending a marriage ranks up there with some of the most traumatic experiences you’ll face in life. Even the marriages that should come to an end hurt when they finally do. The most unfortunate are the relationships that really could work if they just had a little effort and willingness to learn on both sides.

Wherever the faults lie in your marriage, you need to truly examine whether you’re in love with your partner or not. From the step one point of view, it really means everything. After you know your true feelings for your partner you go to the next step.

If you’re not in love with your partner, or if you know your partner doesn’t love you, then you may want to call it an end. Your partner and you deserve to find a loving relationship. It’s a basic requirement for happiness.

If you are in loving relationship (and yes – even rocky relationships can be loving relationships), then your relationship may just need a helping hand. People usually associate relationships that need help as relationships that are weak, or on the verge of ending. This is not the case.

You see, relationships are give and take. Even the most loving relationships can end up with more give or take on one side at some time. This causes disputes and silent negativity, and nobody really knows exactly what happened. After a while, the relationship is in jeopardy.

If you find yourself in a “can’t live with them, can’t life without them” type of relationship, you may just need to find a way to balance out the “give” and the “take” in your relationship. Many long term relationships face this problem.

A quick way to do this is to communicate with your partner your frustrations. Be honest and don’t be angry, and encourage your partner to do the same. You both should share an example of what it is that made you frustrated last, then open the floor to suggestions on how to improve that. Communication is very key to any lasting relationship.

My Ex ended our relationship, but I won her back by doing some very simple things.

See how I won my Ex back.

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How Do I Get My Ex Boyfriend to Love Me Again?

Monday, January 19th, 2009

This is a common question that many girls have when they break up with the boyfriend they really had feelings for. The question you really should be asking yourself is how do you know your boyfriend doesn’t still love you? Maybe he does and he’s just waiting for you to make the first move back?

Break ups occur for many reasons. Some had a good reason and should be broken up. But there are others that just ended for reasons that neither side really can explain quite well. These are times when the break ups are unfortunate.

For example, perhaps there were some accusations flying around and the both of you got into an argument and one of you suggested you break up. When this happens a snowball effect usually follows with “sure, I’m done with you!” or “get out and don’t come back!” or “I don’t love you anyway!” Any of these sound familiar?

The thing is neither side really wanted the break up. They just moved beyond the breaking point and couldn’t return. There’s a good chance that each was hopping the other would back down and come running back.

So, if you’re asking yourself how do I get my boyfriend to love me again, then perhaps you just need to break the ice with your boyfriend over a small get together (like maybe a lunch) and see where he actually stands. You never know, you just may be surprised!

How I won my partner’s love back.

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Does My Ex Still Love Me Quiz - Find Out If They’re Still In Love!

Wednesday, January 14th, 2009

You and your ex have parted ways and now you’re wondering if they still love you. You should be happy to know that most lingering feelings can be seen in the actions of your ex.

Let’s break this out into a little 3 question quiz. Start by looking back over the time span since your break up, have you noticed that your ex does any of the following:

- Continues to communicate with your dad, mom, sister or brother?
- Continues to communicate with friends whom you both share?
- Continues to communicate with your workplace or peers at your work?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, then you now have to ask yourself this, have any of these conversations (that you know of) involved you? I’m not talking about the conversations where your ex does nothing but badmouth you, that’s a whole different conversation, and that’s usually only temporary.

I’m talking about the conversations where they are asking about your well being, or how you’re handling the separation, or even how your love life is going. Partners that continue to have feelings for their ex will wonder these things, and they will very likely use a 3rd party to try and find this information out. This won’t be temporary like the badmouthing, either. You may find your ex asking these questions moths or even years after your break up.

Now, it should be noted that there are some ex partners that clam up and don’t say a darn thing, yet they continue to love the other dearly. These are the folks that have a fairly big self defense mechanism. They don’t want to do anything that would make them appear desperate or needy. There’s really not much you can do about these guys/gals, other than outright ask them.

You should also take into consideration your true feelings. You’re taking this quiz, you probably have some linger feelings yourself, right? That’s A-Okay. Even the best relationships have bumpy roads, and even break up. The unfortunate part of it is when neither side of the loving relationship takes any step to making up.

I know how you feel - my ex left me I had lingering feelings and wondered if she had any remaining love for me.

See what I did to win my ex back.

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