Look, we all know the statistics, well, maybe not literally, but we all have been told how often marriages fail. It’s talked about on your favorite talk show. There are numerous reality shows that start out with two loving couples and end up one serving the other divorce papers. In short, the stats aren’t good, and you’re smart to worry, but don’t let it interfere with what could be the wonderful experience of your life.
Forget Worrying About Making the Marriage Work – Think about Why Marriages Fail
Most of the time marriages fall apart because one or both of the people start getting selfish and feel that the world revolves around them. The truth is that if that is your perspective, the marriage is doomed. The two of you are supposed to be as one and this can not be if you are only looking out for #1. You have to be able to sacrifice parts of yourself for the existence of the marriage. It takes the two of you realizing that if you want to be as one, you may have to sacrifice yourself. The choice is simple, live as one or live as two people.
There are numerous other reasons marriages fail. You can never cover all your bases and plan against everything. Sometimes things just happen and two folks move in different directions. However, with that being said, the majority of failed marriages come from people that move too quickly and don’t take into consideration how to nurture a relationship for long lasting love – together. instead, the relationship just fizzles and fades away.
Requirements To Nurture a Relationship?
It takes an understanding of who you’re in love with, and an understanding on how to fill the needs of your partner. And no, I’m not talking about the bedroom needs.
Most people are very surprised when they hear how they can be in love with someone and not understand that person’s wants and needs – from a relationship (love and nurture) standpoint. Those that take the time to learn their partner are always the most successful in keeping that partner wildly in love with them, and vice versa.
Keep Your Partner Crazy-in-Love with You Forever?
Read My Tear-Jerker Story and see a firsthand example of how I lost the love of my life, and then won her back by recognizing (and tending) to her basic needs.