It doesn’t matter if you’re currently in a strong relationship or in a relationship that’s on the brink of collapse, the ingredients to making a relationship last are still the same, they just need to be applied.
Before we get to some of those ingredients, let’s be sure to note that all lasting relationships require two compatible people that truly love the way they feel around each other. That’s the basics.
People often ask couples that have been together 30 plus years what held them together so long and they usually reply how much they loved the way their partner made them feel. They see themselves as more successful and happier around their partner. This is all very true. However, these things can fade and can be replaced by “relationship static.”
Relationship static is what two loving couples experience when the communication between the two starts to decline or is eliminated altogether. Communication is a must, and it doesn’t matter how much you love the other person, without good lines of communication, the relationship will be in jeopardy.
Now, I’m not talking about basic communication. I’m talking about the active listening – the hearing of your partners desires, fears, thoughts, annoyances, etc. And truly listening and taking an interest in your partner’s requests and responses.
Many of us in long term relationships ask our partners the basics (how are you doing, how was your day at work, etc.) and we tend to block out the long responses – we only hear the static.
Partners need someone to lean on – someone to reinforce their beliefs, ideals and dreams. Without this support there’s a void, and trouble will come sooner or later.
Active communication does take a little effort, but the rewards to your happiness are truly enormous. So it is safe to say, after the basics, communication is key to a lasting relationship.
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