Posts Tagged ‘Kids’

When an Old Flame Comes Marching In

Sunday, April 12th, 2009

We hear about these situations all the time. Someone appears to be in a good relationship, then BAM! Just like gangbusters, an old flame enters the picture and stirs up a bunch of emotions and complications. If you find yourself in this type of situation then I can only offer you one bit of advice - be very careful!

It’s true, old flames tend to burn pretty hot and heavy after some time passes, especially if the old flame was a first love. So having these feelings shouldn’t cause you to ignite any guilt on yourself, but acting on these feelings is another thing entirely.

But what if your current relationship isn’t so great? So what! Yea, I’m serious, so what!

Look, it really doesn’t matter if your current relationship is on the rocks or not, you need to think twice before acting here. You owe it to your current partner, maybe even kids (if any), and most importantly, yourself.

Just how do you think you will feel knowing you’ve hurt your partner or maybe even your kids for just for a temporary fling with an old flame? Believe me, the lasting pain is something that can’t be resolved quite so easily, and something that will stick to your character resume for quite some time.

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Before you take the leap and very likely get burned, take stock of what you have. An old flame is an old flame for a reason. It didn’t work once, and odds are it won’t work again. Stay true to yourself and your current partner by seeing the current relationship through. If your current relationship isn’t meant to be, then perhaps it should end, but do it the right way. Stay true to yourself and keep your respect.

When Children are Involved in the Break Up

Thursday, April 9th, 2009

Relationship problems are significantly greater if you have children with your partner. The children are the innocent bystanders and they really don’t care or need to know who’s wrong or right, they see their mommy and daddy fighting, and that’s all they care about.

Nothing will tear you up more than seeing the disappointment on your kids face when they realize mom and dad arn’t going to be together anymore. Really, is there any good way of explaining it? I certainly don’t know of one. I suppose time will heal those wounds as well… but it just sucks.

Having kids with your partner is certainly a good reason to go the extra mile and try to make the relationship work. Of course, not all relationships are meant to be, but we should all raise our tolarance bar a little higher for the sake of our kids.

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